A Model of Unhealthy Relationships

A list of attitudes and 'sign posts' to unhealthy relationships

- One person makes assumptions about the other's behaviour

- Not being listened to or heard

- Being put down, i.e. you are stupid, I don't like your hair that way 

- Unhealthy expressions of anger, i.e. violence, breaking things,   

   yelling

- Using never and always, i.e. You never listen to me!  You're always

   late!

- Unequal balance of responsibility, i.e. one person consistently doing

  more than the other

- One person doing most of the giving and the other doing most of 

   the taking

- Controlling the other person, i.e. telling them what to wear, whether

   they can go out or not, who they can spend time with, etc.

- One-sided decision making

- Your opinions and beliefs are not respected

- Not speaking to the other person, i.e. the silent treatment

- No matter what you do, the other person is never satisfied

- Your feelings are not respected or validated

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